Watch Those Words!

I guess today’s post wouldn’t be considered romantic by most people; because really it’s not so much about doing something romantic, but avoiding doing something anti-romantic. You see, most of us have a hard time controlling our words. We become angry, or hurt, or just plain careless and say hurtful things to our wives.

That old saying of “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is one of the biggest lies ever spoken by mankind. Our words can hurt in ways that sticks and stones can’t even touch. Broken bones heal, but a broken heart may never become whole again.

So, what can we do? To put it bluntly, we can grow up. A mature adult should be able to control themselves, and that includes controlling their tongue. It is important to learn how to keep our mouths shut, especially when what we would say is hurtful to our wives, or even to our children. Another old saying goes, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” This one will help us to avoid hurting those around us.

It doesn’t matter how many romantic acts we do, if we are still hurting the heart of the one we love, the romantic acts won’t do any good. So, let’s avoid those anti-romantic words.

Day 19 – This one’s going to be hard; but you’re a man, you can do it. Go to your wife, someplace where the two of you can be alone, and apologize to her for all the hurtful things you have said throughout the years. Make a vow to her to work hard on learning how to control your tongue. Finally, ask her to let you know if you say anything hurtful without realizing it.

Like I said, this may not seem romantic, but if you do it with sincerity, you will be surprised with how positive a reaction you get from her. After all, everyone says that “making up” is the fun part.