“I Had a Dream”

Sometimes, us guys have a little bit of trouble expressing ourselves. When it comes to facts, we do pretty good, but when we’ve got to talk about what’s deep down inside of us, we suddenly clam up like a… clam. Our deepest desires may never get realized, simply because we don’t express them.

Okay, so how do we get ourselves to talk about what’s deep inside? Here’s a little trick that might work out pretty well for you.

One of the ways that the subconscious expresses desires is through dreams. So, if you tell someone a dream you had, you’re saying something about what’s deep down inside of you. We’re going to take advantage of that, and use it to express our desires.

Take that desire and make a little story about it. The story is going to be told in the form of a dream; so, you don’t want to get too serious or too exact with your details. At the same time, like any dream, it can contain fantasy elements, like you flying over the ocean to get to your wife. Put that imagination of yours to work, spend a little time on it, but don’t go overboard.

It works even better if you can start out with a real dream you had, and weave your story into it. Let’s say that your desire is to travel to some foreign land. Okay, so you have a dream where you and your wife are flying, just like in Peter Pan. Great, just change the destination to that place where you want to go; no problem.

Now that you’ve got your story, you can tell it to your wife. Start out with, “I had a dream last night. In it we…” and go on with the dream. Remember, you’re expressing a desire, but you’re doing it in the form of a dream. Make it sound like a dream, but don’t forget to include that desire.

You can end by saying something like, “that sounds like fun” or “what do you think about that?” By that, you take the desire expressed in the dream, and bring it out to where it becomes something you are discussing. Who knows, maybe you’ll end up doing it.