I’ve been on a theme here about being romantic with your
wife while she’s out of town. While distance can cause challenges for romance,
that doesn’t mean that we should give up on romance when she’s away. For that matter,
why not take advantage of the time to make a super homecoming for her. There’s
no such thing as overwhelming her with too much romance, so stack up those
romance points while you can.
Women identify with their home. I’ve talked about this
before, specifically mentioning that when the home is a mess, she feels like
she’s a mess. Conversely, when the home gets a face lift, she feels almost as
good as if she’s received it (without the pain).
I’m a bit of a handyman, so I’ve always got some sort of
project going on around the house. Sometimes, those projects get started one
weekend and don’t get finished for months. It seems like there are always other
things that come along, keeping projects from getting wrapped up. Anyway, you
can be sure that those unfinished projects bug my wife, just like they bug
yours.
If she’s out of town for a few days, it’s a great time to
take advantage of the time and get a project done. Having her out of the house
means that she’s not going to have to see the mess you make, doing the project.
Not only that, but you won’t have her telling you how to do it (an added
benefit for you).
When I was a teenager, my mom went out of town for some
event over the weekend. My dad took advantage of the opportunity to redo their
walk-in closet. He pulled everything out of it and redid the interior, adding
shelves, half height clothes rods and shoe racks. When she came home,
everything was back in the closet, all organized and in its proper spots.
That really made an impact on my mom. He hadn’t even talked
to her about the project, but had decided on his own to do it. So, when she
came home, it was a total surprise. She’d been complaining about not having
enough room in the closet, and now she had enough.
The idea here is to time it so that the project is finished before
she gets home. That way, she won’t be bothered by the mess; instead, she’ll be
presented with the finished project. That will be almost like giving her a gift.
The gift will have even more impact if the project you do is something that she’s
wanted.
If my wife leaves for any amount of time, I'm usually at home with 3-4 kids under the age of 7. Not a lot gets done, but they are all still alive and generally healthy when she gets home.
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