A Little Pampering Never Hurts

It’s always important to remember that your wife is the most important person in your life. Even if you have a communication problem, or a disagreement between you; that doesn’t take away from her importance for you. Of all the people you know, she is the only one whose absence would bring your whole world to a screeching halt.

Everything we are doing as romantic acts is with the idea of showing her how important she is. Nobody else can show her that, and nobody else should show her that. You have the special honor of being the only person that she is so special to.

Day 23 - So, it’s Sunday, what can we do for her today? Let’s steal an idea from our kids. What’s the classic thing that kids do for their mothers on Mother’s Day? You got it; they make her breakfast in bed. So, go down to the kitchen, fire up the stove, and make her the best breakfast she’s ever had.

But, let’s change it a little from what the kids do. Don’t just deliver her breakfast, and leave her alone to eat it; make enough for two. That’s right, have a picnic breakfast, together with your wife, right there on your bed. That’ll give you a little time without the kiddies too.

Two little details, just to make sure you don’t negate your own work. First of all, don’t forget to clean up the kitchen. Your wife won’t feel romanticized if she’s got to clean up after you. Secondly, if you guys manage to spill anything on the bed (including crumbs) be the one to strip the bed and get the sheets into the wash; before she can do it.

Make Time to Invest

One of the struggles we have in our modern society is that we are all so busy that we don’t have enough time to invest in our marriages. I say invest, because it is an investment; the time we are together isn’t a cost, it is an investment.

No relationship can stay strong without investing time and communication. Yet, all too often, married couples are so busy with the necessities of life that they find little “free time” in their schedules. Then, when they do have free time, they use that time for hobbies and pastimes that don’t build up their relationship.

Day 22 – Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to find a hobby that you and your wife can do, and enjoy together (that means that both of you have to enjoy it, not that one of you is sacrificing so that the other one can enjoy it). If you think this is impossible, I’d have to say that that means you just haven’t explored all the possibilities out there. There has to be something that you both enjoy, or you probably would never have gotten married.

Many couples take up hobbies where they can work on doing something together. For example, refinishing furniture, or gardening. Or, it might be learning instruments that you can play together, or dancing, or ice skating. Not only do these types of hobbies give you time to spend together, but they give you something to talk about together. It doesn’t matter so much what it is, as that it is something that you do together.

Don’t tell me you don’t have time, either. None of us have time; what you have to do is make time. What? You’re not sure how you can make time? Let me help you. First of all, what activities do you do, that aren’t essential, and don’t involve your wife? Whether it is watching the football game, going fishing, building a hot rod, or bowling night, I’m pretty sure you have some activity that is just for you, and doesn’t include your wife.

Now, ask yourself which is more important, that activity, or your relationship with your wife? If you are unsure about the answer, ask yourself which one you could best live without. Don’t tell me it wouldn’t bother you if your wife left you, but it would bother you if your favorite team gave up playing ball. I don’t believe you. If you were that kind of man, you wouldn’t be on this blog.

Yea, you may have to give up something you enjoy to enjoy something with your wife. But really, isn’t your marriage worth it?

How Many Times Can You Say, "I Love You"

There’s the old joke about the couple who had been married twenty years and were fighting. In the midst of the fight, she screams to her husband, “You never say that you love me!” Befuddled, he looks at his wife and responds, “I told you I love you 20 years ago, when I married you. Isn’t that enough for you?”

Those three important little words, how our wives long to hear them. Yet, many, if not most, men don’t say them anywhere near often enough. Oh, we say them, and do so much more often than in that joke; but all too often it can be days between times when we actually say “I Love You” to our wives.

Words are important to women. Although men are visually stimulated, women are aurally stimulated (that means by hearing). What we say to our wives greatly effects their emotions, their feeling of being loved, and even their health.

Day 21 – Let’s say “I love you” in a different way today, and let’s say it a lot. Ready? Get yourself some paper, and cut it into 100 or more little squares (if you want to get fancy, make them hearts). Write the words “I Love You” on each one of them, and sign them. Then, sometime when your wife can’t see you do it, go into her dresser and hide these little love notes in each and every article of clothing you can find. Don’t just scatter them, put them in the clothing. If you have to unroll socks, and unfold shirts to do it, do just that. Just make sure you fold it back up neatly when you’re done, or she’ll know somebody has been in her dresser.

Now, for the next couple of weeks, or even longer, she’ll find your notes. Every time she gets dressed, she’ll be getting another love note from you. 

Gift Her in Private

It seems that one of the greatest desires of women is to feel pretty, and one of the greatest desires of men is to have a pretty wife. Hmmm, sounds like a plan to me; maybe someone worked that out on purpose.

There are a number of things that make a woman feel pretty, but right now I want to share a secret one with you. You ready for this? The lingerie your wife wears affects how she feels about herself, specifically how pretty she thinks she is. That’s right; even if nobody else sees it, she knows what she’s got on, and it affects how she thinks of herself. If she’s wearing dull cotton panties, she doesn’t feel so hot, but if she’s wearing something lacy or even racy, she’ll feel like she’s someone special.

Day 20 – Sign your wife up for the Panty of the Month Club. There are a number of online businesses that offer this sort of service, providing everything from elegant, to sexy to wild. It will cost you somewhere between $20.00 to $35.00 per month to sign her up for this, but for that money they will send your honey a sexy gift from you, each and every month.

How’s that for a romantic act? Just make sure she plays dress up for you.

Watch Those Words!

I guess today’s post wouldn’t be considered romantic by most people; because really it’s not so much about doing something romantic, but avoiding doing something anti-romantic. You see, most of us have a hard time controlling our words. We become angry, or hurt, or just plain careless and say hurtful things to our wives.

That old saying of “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is one of the biggest lies ever spoken by mankind. Our words can hurt in ways that sticks and stones can’t even touch. Broken bones heal, but a broken heart may never become whole again.

So, what can we do? To put it bluntly, we can grow up. A mature adult should be able to control themselves, and that includes controlling their tongue. It is important to learn how to keep our mouths shut, especially when what we would say is hurtful to our wives, or even to our children. Another old saying goes, “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” This one will help us to avoid hurting those around us.

It doesn’t matter how many romantic acts we do, if we are still hurting the heart of the one we love, the romantic acts won’t do any good. So, let’s avoid those anti-romantic words.

Day 19 – This one’s going to be hard; but you’re a man, you can do it. Go to your wife, someplace where the two of you can be alone, and apologize to her for all the hurtful things you have said throughout the years. Make a vow to her to work hard on learning how to control your tongue. Finally, ask her to let you know if you say anything hurtful without realizing it.

Like I said, this may not seem romantic, but if you do it with sincerity, you will be surprised with how positive a reaction you get from her. After all, everyone says that “making up” is the fun part.

Nothing Says “Love” Like Chocolate

I honestly think that there must be more chocoholics in the world than there are addicts to anything else. Although there are those few rare people who actually don’t like chocolate, the vast majority of us, if placed before the greatest banquet the world has ever seen, would check to make sure there was enough chocolate for us.

Of course, the love of chocolate knows no gender boundary. Men and women alike swoon for some rich, creamy chocolate. But, there are two times in particular when a woman craves chocolate; those are during her PMS time, and during menopause. It seems that there is something in chocolate that really helps them through those times.

Day 18 – The next time your wife is going through one of those rough emotional times… you got it, buy her some chocolate. Now, while any chocolate will do, if you want to make it a romantic act, you really need to buy some sort of special chocolate, not just what they sell at the grocery store checkout.

Good chocolate isn’t exactly cheap, but then that’s part of what makes it special. Godiva is only one of a number of companies that sell specialty chocolates. Many malls now have Godiva stores, and many department stores now sell Godiva assortments. Or, maybe your town has a specialty chocolate store, where they make them by hand. If not, you can always search the Internet to find one who will ship to you.

Personally, my wife and I prefer dark chocolate over milk chocolate, and we have trouble labeling white chocolate as any kind of chocolate. But, there are those out there who prefer the lighter, sweeter, milk chocolate. If you don’t know your wife’s preference in chocolate, it’s time to find out.

Like I said, there’s nothing that says “love” like chocolate.

Don’t Forget Those “Important” Dates

Everyone likes to feel special. Fortunately, in our society, we have certain days that are set aside for just that purpose; Mother’s Day, Birthdays, and Anniversaries all exist just to make the person being honored feel special (and to sell Birthday Cards as well). But, how special is that special person going to feel if they are forgotten? Instead of feeling special, they are going to feel like they are unimportant, and even worse, they’ll feel unloved.

Fortunately for you and me, modern technology has been applied to the age old problem of men forgetting their anniversaries and wives birthdays. That’s right, where your memory fails; an electronic memory can help you out. Just program those special days into your cell phone, digital watch, facebook account, and whatever PIM you use on your computer. That way, you won’t be guilty of forgetting again.

If you’re smart, you’ll program those days in with a little bit of anticipation, so you have a day or two to go out and buy her a present. Make sure it’s a romantic one.

Day 17 – Okay, we’ve got a little bit of a timing problem on this one, because I don’t know when your anniversary or your wife’s birthday is. So, you may not be able to complete today’s romantic act today. Nevertheless, this is a biggie on the importance scale.

Yeah, you got it; make sure you buy your wife a NICE gift on her birthday, and again on her anniversary. How do I define a nice gift? Simple, it needs to be something frivolous (not something useful), that she would love to have, but would never buy herself. Jewelry fits the bill for this one. So do things that she might use in a hobby. Use your imagination, she’s your wife; you should know by now what she likes.

Oh, and buying flowers for your wife on her birthday is a confession that either you couldn’t come up with an idea, or you forgot and had to run out at the last minute to get something. While that’s better than nothing, it’s not the best that you can do. Let’s go for the best!