There’s an old family tradition which seems to be slipping
by the wayside. That is, the tradition of sitting down and eating together.
When I was growing up, it was a rare thing that the whole family didn’t sit
down at the dinner table together. Even when everyone was busy, you could count
on us all being together at dinner time.
Nowadays, it seems like it takes an event to bring us all
together. Everyone is so busy with the activities of their own lives, that we
have trouble finding time to just sit down and eat together. As crazy as it
seems, that’s the reality in which I live.
Maybe your family doesn’t have that problem. Maybe you kids
are still small, your life is more ordered and you come home from work at the end
of the day to sit down as a family around the dining room table. If you do,
enjoy it while you can.
Part of the problem for me is that my kids are all grown up
and have their own lives. They’re not married yet and two of them still live at
home, but they have their own jobs, school, friends and church activities which
take up their time. Because of that, we rarely can find time to all be
together.
Okay, so what does this have to do with romance? Well, your
kids are very important to your wife (yeah, I know, they’re important to you
too, but not so much as to her). She misses them and misses being able to spend
time with them. She misses being able to sit down for dinner together.
Remember, she’s more relationship oriented than you are, so it’s a bigger deal
for her than it is for you.
We recently discovered an old family tradition that has
never been much a part of our family. That’s the tradition of going out to eat after
church on Sunday. Except when we were traveling in ministry, we never really
did that. But now we are.
Part of the reason we never did it was financial; paying
$100 a week for the family to go out to eat can be a real drain on the budget. For
years that was an impossibility for us, even if we had wanted to do so. But
even when we could have done so, the financial strain made us hold those times
off at arms length. But, as I’ve grown a little bit older, I’ve realized that
money was an excuse. We could make it work, all we had to do was decide it was
important.
So, we decided that. Guess what? We’re still managing to pay
all the bills, keep gas in the cars and eat descent the rest of the week. But
now, we’re going out to eat as a family after church, just so that we can spend
the time together.
Is this romantic? No, not in the direct sense, but it is in
an indirect sense. You see, having the family get together on a regular basis
makes my wife feel more complete. It helps her be more at peace. It helps to
validate her as an individual. That may not be romantic in the direct sense,
but it sure helps her feel better, which helps the rest of the romance go that
much better.
So, what are you doing this Sunday after church?
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