We all know how the hustle and bustle of everyday life can
wear us down. It seems that all we do is work, take care of things at home, run
around taking care of things and get ourselves ready to do it all over again.
Finding time to really rest and relax is a luxury that few can afford; and when
we do, it’s usually taking time to bee with friends that we haven’t seen for a
while.
For most of us, just dealing with how tired, stressed and
overworked we are is so much that we don’t think much about how all that work
and stress affects others. Like our wives for example. Stress actually causes
more health problems for women than it does for men. Sadly, most of us have no
idea of how much stress our wives are under.
You’ve heard the old saw about how “a woman’s work is never
done.” Well, with modern appliances and such, it probably is better than it
used to be, but there’s still a lot of work that women have to do. It’s even
worse for those who work outside the home, then come home to work at all the “traditional”
woman’s work in the home. The house and clothes get just as dirty when she’s
out working, as they do when she’s at home. Meals still have to be prepared,
even though she has less time to cook them. Kids still need to be taken to
activities and need help with their homework.
Fatigue and time pressures are the number two cause of
depression in women. That makes it a pretty serious problem. With so many women
today in the workforce, instead of being in the home force, it’s no wonder they’re
battling with time pressures and fatigue. There just aren’t enough hours in the
day.
Whether or not your wife is a good manager of her time, she
may need some help from you. For her, managing her time well might be limited
to making sure she’s got enough time to do everything she needs to do. That’s
not all there is to it. There are a few details which you need to take charge
of, just to make sure that they don’t fall off her priority list. Details like
recreation and relaxation. Even though she might complain about it, she needs
you to make sure she has enough R&R time in her week.
Part of making sure that she has enough time might just be
you taking over some of the household responsibilities from her. Don’t cringe;
vacuuming the carpet or washing the dishes won’t cause you to lose your man
card. Neither will cooking for that matter. I’ve never been able to figure out
why men feel they can’t cook at home, but most of the commercial cooks and
chefs in the world are men. Tis’ a mystery to me. Of course, the corresponding
mystery is why women can’t use a barbecue grill.
Anyway, cooking is a great way to take some of the burden
off of her; it’s even fun. Maybe it’s not as fun as watching the ball game, but
its’ a great chance to be creative. At the same time, you can relieve your wife’s
time constraints, especially if you clean up the dishes afterwards, as well.
Another way that you can help her with her workload is to
farm it out for her. Maybe it’s time to hire a part-time housekeeper to come in
and clean once a week. It’s amazing what four hours of help, cleaning the house
once a week, can do for your wife’s schedule and peace of mind.
Remember, you’ve got great motivation to help her out with
this; it will help keep her from being depressed. I don’t think anyone enjoys
it when their wife is depressed, and I’m sure that the women don’t enjoy it either.
So, do what you can to help make sure that she has enough time, so that she
doesn’t have to have all that pressure.
