Kiss Breaks

The institution of the coffee break has been around ever since labor unions started complaining about working conditions. At least, I think it was them who started it. Nevertheless, it’s an institution now. Everyone gets their morning and afternoon coffee breaks, so that they can get away from their desks, grab a cup of java and talk to their buddies for a few minutes.

That is, everyone gets their coffee break, except for those who are self-employed. They keep on working no matter what. Yes, I’m amongst the ranks of those who have foresworn coffee breaks. Of course, since I’m not allowed to have caffeine, giving up decaf wasn’t much of a sacrifice.

My wife and I both work out of our home office. I write and she teaches language classes; but, we share the same office. I’ve heard all my married life (and before) that a couple shouldn’t work together, because it causes them to spend too much time together. Well, if it wasn’t for the time we spend together in the office, we might not be able to spend enough time together.

Anyway, there’s another distinct advantage of sharing an office with my wife. While I don’t take coffee breaks, I do take kiss breaks. Now, kiss breaks are highly important. Not only do they provide a great break from the workday, but they also help keep us connected. Since we both work a lot, we need to make that extra effort to keep ourselves connected. What better way than to stop a couple of times a day to kiss?

The fact of the matter is, most couples don’t kiss enough. It could be because they’re too busy, or too tired, or that they don’t like kissing in front of the kids. Regardless of the reason, they just don’t kiss enough.

Did you know that kissing is actually more intimate than sexual intercourse? Now, I realize that we’re not used to thinking of it that way, but it’s true. Prostitutes won’t kiss, even though they’ll let men do just about anything they want to their bodies. It’s possible for them to mentally “disconnect” themselves from their bodies, not allowing that to affect them. But, they can’t ignore a kiss; so they don’t allow it.

The lips are the most sensitive part of the body. That’s why babies put everything in their mouths. It’s also why kissing is so arousing sexually. Kissing stimulates us in a way that even sexual intercourse can’t.

When my wife and I were on our honeymoon, we went to Aspen, Colorado to go skiing. While we both enjoy skiing, she was a bit fearful. So, we developed a plan for skiing together. I’d ski down the hill a ways and stop to wait for her. She’d ski down to where I was. Then, we’d stop for a kiss break before continuing on. Whether or not the skiing was fun, the kiss breaks were wonderful.

Kissing also helps prepare her for other intimate activities later on. Women don’t think of sex anywhere near as often as men do. However, they can be encouraged to think about it, by the things that their husbands do outside the bedroom. Kissing is a very important part of that.

So, put some kiss breaks on your schedule. If you don’t share an office with your wife, like I do, you’ll have to find other times. Have a kiss break before you leave for work in the morning. Grab her for another one when you walk in the door in the evening. Schedule one for just after dinner, and another for just after you put the kids to bed. Whatever works for you. 

More Than Her Lips

Have you ever watched a movie where some European guy kisses the woman’s hand? That probably seemed a bit strange to you. After all, why kiss her hand, when you can kiss her lips? Of course, if she’s not your wife, that’s a whole other story. Then again, with the way women react to it, there might be something to kissing hands after all.

Kissing is wonderfully romantic; but it doesn’t have to be limited to just her lips. The thing to remember here is that a woman’s skin is much more sensitive than a man’s. So, while a kiss on the hand may not seem like much to us, that doesn’t mean that it isn’t much to them. In fact, a kiss on the hand is a great way to find your way to her lips.

I’m obviously not recommending that you go around kissing every woman you meet on her hand. While they might like it, I’m sure that your wife wouldn’t. What I am recommending is kissing your own wife on her hand.

Actually, I’m recommending much more than that. Why not start on her hand and work your way up her arm, kissing every inch or two. So what if it takes a while to get there, you can both enjoy it. While you’re at it, a few kisses on the back of her neck wouldn’t hurt either.

Yesterday, my wife and I were on an airplane, returning from Mexico. We like to express our love to one another frequently, in a number of different ways. However, it’s a bit difficult to kiss when strapped into an airline seat; not impossible, just awkward. So, instead of kissing her on the lips, I kissed her hand and her arm. That had as much positive effect on her as if I had kissed her on the lips.

One thing that makes this type of kissing effective is that it is one-way kissing. What I mean by that is that it is an expression of love, without the expectation of reciprocation. If I kiss my wife on the lips, I expect her to kiss back; but when I kiss her hand, I just expect her to enjoy it.

Kissing in not only wonderfully romantic, it’s incredibly intimate as well. It’s a form of marital intimacy that can be practiced in public, without problem. Actually, there’s something about a kiss that can’t even be expressed by “more intimate” forms of touch. Perhaps that’s because a kiss doesn’t have to be overtly sexual, it can just be extremely loving. Women want that expression of love, without the sexual overtones, just for the sake of being loved.

The All-Important Kiss

Have you ever noticed how young dating couples spend lots of their time together kissing? Now, have you ever noticed how little time married couples spend kissing? Not only that, but what most married couples refer to as a kiss is more correctly defined as a peck, not a real kiss.

Something is definitely backwards here. It seems to me that the dating couples should limit themselves to nothing more than a peck, while the married couples should be the kissing experts. After all, they’ve had more opportunity to practice, so they should be much better at it.

It seems that somewhere along the way, kissing ends up being left aside like old baggage. Even in couples who make love frequently, there may not be a whole lot of kissing going on. Yet, in some ways, kisses are even more intimate than sex. Yes, that’s what I said, kissing can actually be more intimate than sexual intercourse.

From what I understand (not from personal experience) prostitutes will let a man do pretty much anything they want to their bodies, but won’t kiss them. These prostitutes understand that kissing is intimate, and they aren’t interested in being intimate with their clients, just providing a service. So, if they think that kissing is intimate, why don’t we get it?

Granted, there are a lot of things which go together to make intimacy exist in a marriage relationship. True communication is also an indispensible ingredient. But that doesn’t negate the importance of kissing one bit. Kissing isn’t just a part of foreplay; it’s a large part of what keeps us close together as a couple. When we kiss, we are drawing ourselves together as a couple, sharing ourselves one with another and telling each other that we want to be emotionally close.

Leaving in the morning, without stopping to kiss your wife could be considered a crime against your marriage. The same could be said for coming home at night, without kissing her. Those moments we take to share our love through a kiss are a very important part of our overall expression of love.

Don’t leave it at that, though. Last I checked, there’s no kiss limit stated on a marriage license. It doesn’t have a line that says, “Good for a maximum of ten kisses per day.” Make kissing a regular part of your day, stopping every once in a while, just to kiss your wife. Let that expression of love become a regular part of your routine; but don’t let it become just routine. Make sure that you both enjoy every kiss break.