Midnight Massage

Ever have one of those days? I’m sure you know what I mean; one of those days that just seem to go on forever, with nothing really going right. Oh yeah, they’re called Mondays; that’s right. Seems like they come around once a week to get us; generally right after we’ve enjoyed our weekend. Why is it that Monday’s think that they’ve got the right to steal the joy of our weekends, anyway?

Well, guess what? If Mondays get to you, there’s a pretty good chance that they get to your wife as well. She faces the same problems, the same difficult people and the same shock in switching from weekend mode to work week mode as you do.

We’ve talked about making Friday night our date night and helping her to unwind on Fridays, so that she’s ready for the weekend; but what about Mondays? I think it would be rather difficult to make Mondays into a date night as well. So, that idea’s out; but that doesn’t mean that we can’t do anything on Mondays to help her get over the shock of staring work once again.

Since Mondays are stressful, it seems to me that we need a stress-busting activity to help her get through it. Of course, it would be even better if it was a stress-busting activity that worked for both of us; but let’s concentrate on her for the moment. Maybe, after her stress is gone, she’ll reciprocate in kind.

So, when was the last time you gave your wife a massage? I mean, a real massage, not just rubbing her shoulders for a minute or so. We’re talking full body massage here, from her neck down to the soles of her feet.

Well, why not give her one tonight. Wait till the kids go to bed and have at it. Dig out the massage oil and the vibratory massager, and help her bleed away all the stress of her Monday. Turn your bedroom into a massage parlor, complete with some soft music, low lighting, and of course, the expert masseuse… you.

Okay, to do this right, she’s going to have to get rid of all those clothes that are in the way. Have her lay on the bed, face down, and turn on the massager. Take your time to run it all over her body, concentrating on her shoulders, spine and lower back. If she spends a lot of time on her feet, make sure you get her calves real well too. Work the knots out of her muscles, going back over those critical areas, to hit them again.

Don’t stop there. Now grab the massage oil and start working on her with your hands. Once again, be sure to get the shoulders, lower back and legs. Take a few minutes to work on the soles of her feet; just don’t tickle them. You should have her purring in no time. 

Getting Rid of the Week’s Stress

Well, Friday’s finally rolled around again. Time to shift gears, forget about work, kick off your shoes, stretch out and relax a bit. Ahhh! Everyone looks forward to Friday, the opportunity to stop being a functionary and start being a person once again.

You know, it’s a whole lot easier for most guys to shift gears and enter relax mode than it is for our wives. Women tend to get emotionally involved in everything they do, making it harder to just let go and forget about it. Even when they stop thinking about work, they’re concerned about the people who they work with. If a co-worker has problems in their marriage or with their kids, or a grandmother who’s in the hospital, they care about all that as well.

Even when she finally let’s go of work, she’s still got a bunch of things which she’s concerned about. The house has to be cleaned, the clothes have to get washed, and somehow she’s got to find an hour or two to run to the grocery store to stock up the kitchen for the next week. That old saying about a woman’s work never being done is true.

With so much on her mind, it’s no wonder that women find it hard to just take some time to relax. For us guys, it’s no problem. Let us collapse on the sofa with a drink in one hand and the remote in the other, and we just unplug. No problems, no worries, just chill.

Okay, so if our wives have so much trouble relaxing, wouldn’t it make sense that we help them out a bit? I mean, if we’re the experts, then we really ought to share our expertise with our wives and let them get some advantage from it as well. There are some things that she’s better at and some things which you’re better at. She shares her expertise with you and you should share yours with her.

Some time back, I recommended that you take Friday night as your date night. That wasn’t just because Friday is the traditional date night, but so that going on a date could set the tone of your weekend. When you start the weekend off together, you’re much more likely to spend the whole weekend together, even if you have chores to do. There’s nothing that says you can’t do those chores together.

Even if you don’t go out on a date on Friday, you should still set that time aside for the two of you. Friday evening needs to become your official “change gears” time. To do that requires relaxing more than anything else. Whether that relaxing involves going out on a date, going to the gym together, watching a movie together or soaking in a hot tub.

Everyone has something that helps them relax. What you need to do is find something that helps the two of you relax together. If a workout at the gym helps you relax, but your wife hates it, that’s not going to do much good. If shopping helps her relax, but you’re gritting your teeth the whole time, that’s not going to do much better. It needs to be something that’s relaxing for both of you. Even more so, it needs to be something relaxing that you can do together. That’s why making it a date night works so well.

The other important thing to do to help her relax on Friday night is a massage. Massages are a great way to relieve stress and help anyone forget the stress of work and life in general. So, maybe you should make a Friday night massage part of your weekly date routine. Get home, go in the bedroom, turn down the lights, and give her a massage. Where it goes from there is up to you (and her too).