Do you remember your first date with your wife? Most of us
do, if only vaguely. Of course, our wives usually remember it in great detail,
down to the clothes we wore and what we ate. Their memories tend to be better
at things like that then ours are.
Well, there’s no reason you can’t have another first date,
or at least pretend to. You know, play acting can be as much fun for adults as
it is for kids; especially when we do it with our spouses. It’s a harmless
outlet for fantasies, adding a little spice to your relationship.
The normal problem with fantasies is that they either
involve someone besides your wife or they involve doing things that your wife
wouldn’t do. The first one is clearly wrong and the second can cause one to be
dissatisfied in their marriage. That’s not saying that all fantasies are bad
though, we just need to be careful about how we fantasize and who we fantasize
with. There’s nothing wrong with fantasizing about your wife, nor is there
anything wrong with acting out those fantasies (assuming the two of you are in
agreement and it can’t hurt either of you).
So, if you’re going to have another first date, you’ve got
to do the whole shebang. Call her up and ask her out on a date. Once you’ve got
her agreement, explain what you’re going to do, pretending it’s your first date
once again. If you can recreate any part of that date, like the place you went
to, so much the better.
What did you do on your first date? Isn’t that, more than
anything, a time of getting to know each other? So, whether you pick her up or
you meet someplace, do it as if you don’t know each other. Go to a restaurant
and tell her about yourself, get her to tell you about herself, ask questions,
learn to know each other once again.
This can be a great ice breaker if you feel that you’ve been
growing apart. At times, as the years pass, we feel as if we don’t know each
other anymore. Well, if that’s the case, it’s time to start learning about each
other once again. Even if it isn’t the case, I’ll bet that you’ll end up
telling each other things that you didn’t know. That’s part of the fun, getting
to know each other more.
Where it goes from there… well, that’s up to the two of you
to decide.
I ended a short relationship of three months with my ex. He seems to be obsessed now in proving to me he really does love me but I’m scared now to let him back in. In the beginning, things were “normal” and I didn’t see any red flags. Shortly thereafter, I noticed that he often needs attention and validation from females as he has a lot of female social media friends.I further kept tabs on his phone through a spy app sent to me by a cyber hacker {hackingloop6 @ gmail . co m}. Who's also available on + 1 (612) 502-3647..I saw many romantic messages and dating sites he registered. I call him out on this and ended things. He shows signs of someone with a core of shame and low self-esteem that is masked by narcissistic behaviors.
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