Monday, September 17, 2012
An Island of Calm, in the Midst of Her Storm
Life is full of unexpected problems. Everything can be going along just fine, when all of a sudden, it all goes haywire. You know what I mean, it’s happened to you; it happens to all of us. It even happens to your wife. Actually, it probably happens to your wife, more than it happens to you.
How you react and what you do when your wife hits one of those moments can have a lot to do with how well and how easily she manages to get through it. You can be a support to her in those critical times, becoming an anchor for her life, when everything else seems to be going crazy.
As men, we have a little bit of trouble understanding our wife’s emotions. We have emotions as well, but they don’t affect us as much as they do our wives. Most of the time we bury our emotions so deep that we don’t even see them ourselves, let alone anyone else seeing them. We are much more comfortable with our thoughts about things than we are with our feelings about them.
It’s much different for women. In most cases, they don’t have a whole lot of control over their emotions. In fact, they feel more like their emotions are more in control of them, instead of them being in control of their emotions. When things go wrong, it’s not uncommon for a woman to feel like she’s adrift in an ocean of emotions, with no control over the rudder.
That’s where you need to come in. She needs you to be her “safe anchorage,” an island of calm in the midst of her storm. She need someplace where she can go and know that she’ll be safe, no matter how much the storm of her emotions tells her otherwise.
Your ability to remain calm in the midst of a problem makes a huge difference to your wife. Even more than that, your ability to focus on the Lord and on the help you can expect to receive from Him, gives her an anchor for her own faith.
It’s easy to forget about the Lord in a moment of crisis. Yet, if there is ever a time when we need to put our eyes on Him, that’s the time. True spiritual leadership always brings people to the Lord. If all you do is to have her come to you, you’ve only done half the job. Once she comes to you, then you take her with you to the Lord, placing the situation before Him.
Yes, be that safe harbor for her. But, the best way of doing that is by putting your faith in the Lord. With your confidence in Him, you can always find the answer to your wife’s need. You can always be that island of calm in the midst of her storm. You can always help her through.