Building Her Up

Let’s face it, women are constantly under attack these days; and I’m not talking about the supposed “war on women” that liberals made up to try and make Republican’s look bad. No, this goes much deeper than any political propaganda or jockeying for position. This is a deeply buried problem in the fabric of our society; one that is determined to destroy women.

Part of this attack is how today’s society has demeaned the classic woman’s role in the family to the point where it is given the appearance of not having any value. Women are constantly told that to “be someone” they have to have their own career, their own money and their own success.

Another part is how modern society has defined beauty. To be beautiful, a woman has to be anorexic, have plastic surgery, buy designer clothes and a team of makeup artists and hairdressers working on her for hours per day. That’s not counting the geeks in the back room who are Photo-shopping every image of her that is allowed to go out in public.

God has created women with intrinsic value, value that goes far beyond the board room or the beauty parlor. It’s a value that is built into their character; the way that they live, move, feel and act. Yet, society has ignored these values, saying that their own values are much more important.

Sadly, this leaves most women fighting depression and problems with self-image. Actually, it’s not surprising. If the message they’re receiving all day long is that they aren’t good enough, it’s no wonder that they feel that they aren’t. If you tell someone the same thing over and over, they’ll eventually believe it, no matter how big a lie it is. This is even more true when nobody is telling them the opposite.

That’s where you and I come in. We can’t help all the women in the world, but we can sure make a difference in the life of our own wife. If nobody else is telling her that she’s special, we should. If nobody else is telling her that her talents and abilities are valuable, we should. If nobody else is telling her that she’s beautiful and sexy, we should. We may not be able to overcome all the garbage that’s being thrown at our wives, but we sure can overcome some of it.

Our wives need for us to be building them up. It’s not just a nicety, or even a desire, it’s a genuine need. There is so much that is beating them down, that if we don’t pick them up, there’s a good chance that they’ll spend the rest of their lives down and depressed. I don’t mean just a little depressed, either; I’m talking about full-blown clinical depression.

It’s really not hard to compliment your wife. All you have to do is focus on what she does well. Whoever she is, and whatever she does; I’m sure that there are some things which she does extremely well. Maybe she doesn’t do everything all that well, but then again, neither do we.

Focus on the good stuff, not the bad. Quite telling her how she needs to change, and tell her how great she is, just the way she is. There are enough people telling her how she needs to change, don’t let your voice be added to theirs. Let your voice be the one which stands out from the crowd, telling her that you’re glad that she’s the one you picked.