Announce Your Love to the World

I remember a famous line (although I don’t remember where it comes from) that goes, “I will shout my love for you from the rooftops.” Even though it sounds a little dangerous, it still sounds like a great idea. It’s one thing to tell your wife that you love her, it’s another to make sure everyone else knows it too. Any declaration becomes stronger when we make it public; and that would make it very public indeed.

Day 36 – Okay, let’s get a little bit more realistic, than shouting from the rooftops. There has to be some way that we can publicly broadcast our love, doesn’t there? Yes, there is.

Most AM radio stations have sometime during the day that they do public announcements of birthdays, anniversaries and other similar thing. Even if they don’t typically do “I love you” messages, I bet they’d do it if you asked. Just make sure you are doing it at a time and on a station that your wife is listening to. As an alternative, get them to play her a love song from you.

It might help to have a co-conspirator make sure that the right radio station is on at the right time. Otherwise, she might miss the message. 

Announce Your Love to the World

I remember a famous line (although I don’t remember where it comes from) that goes, “I will shout my love for you from the rooftops.” Even though it sounds a little dangerous, it still sounds like a great idea. It’s one thing to tell your wife that you love her, it’s another to make sure everyone else knows it too. Any declaration becomes stronger when we make it public; and that would make it very public indeed.

Day 36 – Okay, let’s get a little bit more realistic, than shouting from the rooftops. There has to be some way that we can publicly broadcast our love, doesn’t there? Yes, there is.

Most AM radio stations have sometime during the day that they do public announcements of birthdays, anniversaries and other similar thing. Even if they don’t typically do “I love you” messages, I bet they’d do it if you asked. Just make sure you are doing it at a time and on a station that your wife is listening to. As an alternative, get them to play her a love song from you.

It might help to have a co-conspirator make sure that the right radio station is on at the right time. Otherwise, she might miss the message. 

Chores are Easier When Shared

Many couple, especially couples where both partners work away from home, use their weekends to catch up on work around the house. All the regular chores, like cleaning and fixing and shopping are left for the weekend. So, instead of spending time together, they spend their time doing what’s got to get done.

Day 35 - Unfortunately, I don’t have a solution to that problem. It’s usually pretty hard to get that stuff done in the middle of the week; and putting it off till the next weekend just makes it worse. One way, or another all that work has got to get done.

Okay, so we can’t get rid of the chores, but maybe we can find a way of making them better. How? By doing them together. I’m not talking about you doing your part of the chores, and your wife doing her part; that’s not doing them together, it’s just sharing the workload. No, what I’m trying to suggest is that you seek out those chores that the two of you can work on together, and do them as a team.

Not only will this make those chores go faster, but there’s something about working together on something, anything, that draws people together; at least, it draws them together if they can work together without fighting over the work.

Some chores easily lend themselves to teamwork, such as gardening, washing dishes and cleaning out the garage. Those are the first ones to try. Others may not seem to be so much working on the project together, as working on two things, but where you can be together. For example, she’s dusting the living room, and you’ve got to hang the curtains. Well, at least try and hang the curtains while she’s in the living room, so that you can at least be together.

One other thing, grab moments to make the work more fun. A hug and kiss break in the midst of a project always makes it easier. Or, playing with the kids toys while cleaning out the attic can be a great break. Whatever you do, make sure it’s something you can do together. 

Start the Weekend off Right

For most of us, the workweek may as well be spent with track shoes on. From the moment our alarms go off on Monday, through the kids soccer practice on Tuesday, and the ballet lessons on Thursday, how do we manage to find time for the dentist appointment, to talk with the kids math teacher; and, oh yeah, get some work in there too.

When the weekend comes, it seems like the whole world gives a huge, collective sigh of relief. But really, our all too often our weekends are just as hectic as the work week. We’ve got to mow the lawn, wash the car, do the grocery shopping, go to the kids game, wash the laundry, fix the broken screen door, and somehow still have time for the game. Oh, and don’t forget the relatives that are coming over for dinner on Sunday night.

How did we ever get so crazy? Even more important, how are we ever supposed to find time for each other in the midst of all this busyness?

Day 34 – I’d like to suggest to you that you and your wife form a new family tradition; one of starting the weekend of right. Take Friday night and make it yours. I know, there are a million other things to do; but this one is more important; we all need to invest time into our marriages.

It doesn’t really matter so much what you do in the time that you reserve for yourselves, what’s important is that you have that time. In fact, it’s so important, that I think you should put it in your planner, just like any other appointment. That doesn’t mean that you can never accept a dinner invitation on Friday nights, it just means that you only accept it if you both think it’s important enough to sacrifice your time together.

Friday nights don’t have to be expensive, but they have to be exclusive; it’s exclusively for the two of you. If you go out to eat, make the kids eat pizza. If you go to the park, to take a walk and throw bread at the ducks, don’t bring the kids with you. If you just sit over a cup of coffee and talk, make sure it is in a place where you can be alone. Oh, and, be sure to turn your cellular off.

Would You Do It All Over Again?

One of the questions we are often faced with in life is, “What would I do if my wife died?” I don’t know about you, but I’ve been directly confronted by this question on more than one occasion. It’s never fun, never comfortable, but that doesn’t stop it from rearing its ugly head.

So, how would you answer that question? I think for most of us, the idea of being single again isn’t all that attractive. Oh, I know, there’s always some guy that says he’d love to be back in that free swinging bachelor lifestyle; but, when it comes down to it, that’s a lonely way to live. It’s much better to have a wife who’s always there, instead of having to constantly look for someone to spend time with.

The next question that seems to follow the first is, “Would you marry her again?” Now, if you’re reading this blog, I really think your answer to that question would have to be a resounding, “Yes!” Otherwise, you probably would be on a blog about hating your wife, instead of on one about how to show love to her.

Day 33 – Well, if your answer is that “yes” that I think it is, why don’t you tell her. There’s nothing that will give your wife the security of knowing that you love her than for you to propose to her again. Yeah, I know, it sounds a little corny; but she won’t see it that way. 

Make Her a Gift

Remember back when we were little kiddies? Every Mother’s Day we’d make some sort of little gift for our moms. We never bought Birthday or Christmas cards, but instead we got out the glue and construction paper to make a “special” card. Looking back, our great creations might not seem to be such artistic masterpieces, but to those who received them, they were special.

Somewhere along the way we’ve lost that joy in making something with our own hands. Instead, we spend piles of money, trying to impress the person with the cost of the gift. But, you know, there’s still something special, almost magical, about a hand made gift.

A gift made by the giver is more than a gift; it’s a piece of the heart. Even though it may not seem as fancy as something bough in a department store, it’s always there saying, “I was made just for you.”

Day 32 – When we moved into our home last year, my wife wanted some planters to go on the wall around the porch. I could have gone out and found something for her at the local nursery, but instead, I went out to my workshop and made them. Not only do they match the house better, but my wife has a reminder of my love, each and every time she waters those flowers. She still has the “Happy Unbirthday” card I put with them, hanging on her bulletin board, by her desk.

So, what’s your skill? What do you know how to make? I’m not asking what you know how to make like a professional; if we wait to be that good, we’ll never make anything. Maybe it’s something that has been a hobby of yours, but you haven’t done for several years. That doesn’t mean you don’t know how to do it, you still can. If nothing else, dig out the construction paper and glue and make her an “I Love You” card. Put your skills to work, making gifts for your wife. I guarantee you; it’ll be something special to her.

How About a Love Poem?

Many of us guys struggle with putting our love into words, especially when we have to write those words down. Hey, I’m a writer, and there are still times when I struggle to put down words of love on paper. Never fear though, there are those who are experts on this! Not only are they experts, but are pleased when we use their words.

Of all the poetry written, I think that the theme of love has been one of the most popular ever used. I’m not sure, but I’d guess that there are many thousands of love poems that have been written and published through the years. Why not use those words, as if they are our own?

Day 31 – Go to your local book store and pick up a good book of poetry, especially one which has lots of love poems. Don’t worry if you can’t find one, that’s what the clerk is there for, they should know what they have.

What? You’re having trouble, don’t worry, you probably have a love poem in the house, and don’t even know it. If you have a Bible in the house, you have some of the greatest love poetry ever written. The book of Song of Solomon (also known as the Song of Songs) is a love poem, I’m sure Solomon won’t mind you using it.

Find a quiet time when the two of you can sit together; perhaps in front of the fireplace, or maybe even over your morning coffee. Have your book ready at hand, and when the moment seems ripe, read your selected poem to your wife. Take your time, this isn’t a race, the idea is to convey your love for her, not to impress her with how fast you can read.