Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Brush Her Hair
According to Gary Chapman’s book, “The Five Love Languages” one of the ways people express and understand love is through physical touch. To most of us guys, when we say that, there’s a great tendency to immediately think “sex.” But, to women, expressing love through physical touch is much more about non-sexual touch.
If the only time we touch our wives is when we want sex, there’s something wrong. It usually means the relationship has lost the intimacy that brings us to the point of sex. Oh, we might still have sex, but it it’s more like a biological act than it is anything loving and intimate.
Maintaining a habit of touching your wife outside the bedroom, in non-sexual ways is an important part of maintaining the love in your marriage. It’s another way of saying “I love you” but without having to use words. It’s a way of connecting your heart with her heart, so that the feeling of love stays there.
For some reason, women like to have their hair and scalp touched. It really doesn’t matter why they like it, but the reality is that they like it. Now, I wouldn’t recommend touching her hair as soon as she comes home from the beauty parlor. Her enjoyment of having her hair touched may very easily be overcome by her concern for her hairdo, making the reaction you receive the opposite of what you’re looking for.
One great way to touch your wife is to brush her hair for her, especially when she comes out of the shower from washing it. WARNING: in case you haven’t noticed it you wife has longer hair than you do (at least, I think she does). The longer the hair, the more chance of it tangling; and tangles tend to hurt when a brush encounters them. You’ve got to use a light touch and work the tangles out, without pulling her hair. Otherwise, you’re great romantic act will lose all its romance.
Even so, if you take your time and are careful about the tangles, your wife will appreciate it. She’ll both feel pampered, and feel that you are willing to take the time to be the one pampering her. Isn’t that worth it?