Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Don’t Give Up
Sometimes, it seems as if all the effort we’re putting into being romantic isn’t accomplishing anything. You know what I mean? It’s as if your wife doesn’t even see what you’re doing for her. Don’t worry, she is seeing it, and it is making an impact on her.
Women don’t always tell you that you’re doing the right thing. I guess it’s just human nature; people are much more likely to complain about bad service in a restaurant that they are to compliment a waitress who gives them excellent service. That doesn’t mean they don’t notice or appreciate the great service, just that they don’t see any need to say anything about it.
Let’s get real here, the world in which we live is negative. Much of our expression is negative, reflecting the negativity of the world. We call a traffic light a “red light” or a “stop light;” but last I checked those lights are green just as much time as they are red. Why don’t we call it a “go light”? We even tell people “go through the third stop light and turn right at the next street.” I’m not sure about where you live, but here in Texas, that’s a good way to get a ticket.
Okay, getting back to our wives. Like I said, women don’t always say something positive when we do something romantic for them. That doesn’t mean they don’t notice it though. You can be sure that your wife is noticing every romantic act you do. You can also be sure that they’re making an impact on her. Granted, she probably should do something to acknowledge your romantic acts, but that doesn’t mean that she will.
Let me say one thing here that might just manage to offend you. If you’re expecting something for your romantic acts, you’re being selfish. Remember, this isn’t about getting something; it’s about showing your love to your wife. Keep your focus on her, not on what you want from her.
I don’t know if you’ve seen the movie “Fireproof” but if you haven’t, it might be a good idea to watch it. In the movie, the couple is at a point of divorce. The man’s father comes to him, and challenges him to take 40 days and essentially be romantic towards his wife. Well, the upshot of the story is that he ends up winning his wife’s heart all over again. I’ll guarantee you that it wasn’t easy for him; I can remember a bunch of scenes where she pretended not to notice what he did for her. But, in the end, he won.
Okay, maybe your marriage isn’t in a shambles; I sure hope it isn’t. But you still need to win your wife’s heart all over again. In fact, that’s the way to make sure your marriage stays healthy; win your wife’s heart each and every day.
Don’t get frustrated, and don’t give up. She is seeing what you’re doing, and ultimately she will respond to it. Your investment in your marriage is guaranteed to pay off.