Monday, April 4, 2011
When Can We Have a Date Night?
For many of us, finding time for one another can be a real challenge. It seems that there are so many other things we have to do, all of which are important, that having time together all too often slips by the wayside.
There are two requirements to making sure you can have time together as a couple. The first one is commitment. If you both aren’t committed to making time for each other, it just isn’t going to happen. Everything else will put pressure on your schedule and before you know it, you’ve gone through another week hardly saying hello to each other. The crazier your schedule is, the more you’ve got to be committed to the idea of spending time together.
The second thing that’s required to make time for each other is imagination. Whoever said that a date night has to be at night? Why can’t it be a breakfast date, or a lunch date, or even a mid-afternoon date? My wife teaches classes most nights, so trying to find a night that’s free for us is more than a challenge, it’s almost impossible. So, we just find another time; our schedules are more flexible during the day, so we go out for lunch, instead of dinner.
Dates don’t have to be expensive to be dates; you don’t have to impress her with how much money you spend on her. It’s not about money, it’s about time. The two of you need time together, without interruptions from the office, the kids, or your in-laws.
Going to the park to feed the ducks, and grabbing a hamburger on the way is just as valid a date as going out to the most expensive restaurant in town. Granted, it’s nice to go out to that fancy restaurant every once in a while, but it doesn’t have to be every time. Sometimes, the simple pleasures are best. If you’ve got to plan and plot to have a date, you’re not going to have one very often. But, if you’ll use your imagination, and grab at the opportunities that present themselves, you can find all the time you need.
Remember, you need to be committed to having time with your wife. If you don’t, I’ll guarantee you that she’s going to feel like everything else in your life is more important to you than she is. Spending money will never make up for time. Writing fancy words won’t either. Women spell love T – I – M – E.