Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Quit Yer Grumblin'
You know, guys, some of the things we say and do just don’t work to help build our marriages. The worst of it is, most of those things aren’t things we do intentionally, but things that just slip out, without us realizing it. We literally have to force ourselves to not allow them to escape.
Take grumbling for example; we all have the innate habit of grumbling when our wives ask us to do something. Yet, I have to ask the question, why are we grumbling? I mean, is it really all that hard to do whatever it is that our wives are asking us to do? Isn’t it just that we resent the intrusion on our time and freedom? Somehow, we think that she doesn’t have the right to do that.
But, wait a minute; don’t we make intrusions on our wife’s time? Don’t we expect her to do things for us? For that matter, is doing what she wanted really all that big a deal?
Day 80 – Okay guys, this is going to be another one of those “change a bad habit” type of romantic acts. Yeah, I know, they aren’t really as much fun as some buying her a box of chocolates, but in the long run, if we get rid of the things that irritate or annoy our wives, we won’t be buying those chocolates to make up for something wrong we did, but just to show her we love her.
So, here it is; all you’ve got to do is forget how to grumble. Okay, it’s really not that easy, especially since it’s really not forgetting how to grumble, it’s remembering how to avoid grumbling.
How do we do that? Simple, you can get rid of a negative action (grumbling) by replacing it with a positive action. In this case, I’d like to recommend replacing the negative action of grumbling with the positive action of a kiss. When she asks you to do something, get up from the sofa, and go give her a kiss. Then, since you’re already up from the sofa, you can go do what she wanted you to do. It might even be a good idea to add another kiss at the end.