Saturday, November 6, 2010
Make Time to Invest
One of the struggles we have in our modern society is that we are all so busy that we don’t have enough time to invest in our marriages. I say invest, because it is an investment; the time we are together isn’t a cost, it is an investment.
No relationship can stay strong without investing time and communication. Yet, all too often, married couples are so busy with the necessities of life that they find little “free time” in their schedules. Then, when they do have free time, they use that time for hobbies and pastimes that don’t build up their relationship.
Day 22 – Your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to find a hobby that you and your wife can do, and enjoy together (that means that both of you have to enjoy it, not that one of you is sacrificing so that the other one can enjoy it). If you think this is impossible, I’d have to say that that means you just haven’t explored all the possibilities out there. There has to be something that you both enjoy, or you probably would never have gotten married.
Many couples take up hobbies where they can work on doing something together. For example, refinishing furniture, or gardening. Or, it might be learning instruments that you can play together, or dancing, or ice skating. Not only do these types of hobbies give you time to spend together, but they give you something to talk about together. It doesn’t matter so much what it is, as that it is something that you do together.
Don’t tell me you don’t have time, either. None of us have time; what you have to do is make time. What? You’re not sure how you can make time? Let me help you. First of all, what activities do you do, that aren’t essential, and don’t involve your wife? Whether it is watching the football game, going fishing, building a hot rod, or bowling night, I’m pretty sure you have some activity that is just for you, and doesn’t include your wife.
Now, ask yourself which is more important, that activity, or your relationship with your wife? If you are unsure about the answer, ask yourself which one you could best live without. Don’t tell me it wouldn’t bother you if your wife left you, but it would bother you if your favorite team gave up playing ball. I don’t believe you. If you were that kind of man, you wouldn’t be on this blog.
Yea, you may have to give up something you enjoy to enjoy something with your wife. But really, isn’t your marriage worth it?