Monday, November 8, 2010
“Thank You, Honey”
Quite often, it’s the little things that make a big difference. When we do them, everything works out fine, but when we forget them, everything turns into a disaster. Take checking the oil and water in your car for an example. If you keep the oil changed, and the water topped off, your engine will last a long time. But, forget to change the oil regularly, and that car you paid so much for can end up in the junkyard. I know, I’ve made that mistake.
Your wife doesn’t have a dipstick to check her emotional state; but you should be able to have a pretty good idea of it just by watching her. Remember, you are supposed to be the expert on her. Just as checking the oil can seem like a small thing, checking your wife’s emotions is a small thing; but one with great importance.
Much of the time, if our wives emotional state starts getting a little low, it is because of our words. Now, I realize that we, as husbands, are not the only thing that can affect our wife’s emotions, but we’re definitely at the top of the list. Not only that, but we are the ones who have the greatest possibility to turn it around again.
As I said, it’s the little things that make a difference. In other words, it’s the little words that we say, or don’t say that can make the biggest difference for her. Little words like, “Thank you, Honey.” How often do you say that? Or, are you like many men, who take their wife’s work for granted?
Day 24 – Time to form a new habit, the habit of saying “thank you” to your wife. Start out by taking her aside, maybe after dinner, without the kids, and telling her, “I’ve been remiss in not thanking you for everything you do for me. I just want you to know that I appreciate you.”
Don’t let it stop there, though. Make sure you thank her for at least one thing every day (better if you can do more). If necessary, make a note in your cell phone, or planner to remind you to thank her. They say it takes 40 days to form a new habit; so make sure you put it in your planner every day for the next 40 days.